If you’d like to hear sermons related to the questions about being in an abusive marriage or a more in-depth teaching with detail and clarity regarding marriage, divorce, and remarriage, please consider listening to the series by Dr. Richard Caldwell - Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage.
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Should I Stay in or Leave My Abusive Marriage?
Does God want me to stay married to an abuser? Is abuse in marriage an acceptable reason for divorce? If I leave my abusive marriage can I get remarried?
This week on the Straight Truth Podcast, Dr. Richard Caldwell and host, Dr. Josh Philpot approach the subject of abuse in marriage. Dr. Philpot asks Dr. Caldwell how would he counsel someone, who is in an abusive situation in their marriage, about staying put or leaving the marriage with the possible outcome being divorce.
Dr. Caldwell tells us that we never want to encourage a person to stay, remain or return to a home where physical danger is present and ongoing. We need to be wise about how we approach situations where physical abuse is involved. Several factors have to be brought to bear on these particular circumstances. How pastors and elders in the church would shepherd and counsel one through these difficult times, would depend on each individual situation and set of circumstances.
The Power of God Can Transform and Restore Any Marriage
He goes on to say, however, that there is no sin that’s been committed in a marriage, where repentance takes place, that God can’t transform and restore the marriage. If there is going to be restoration where there was once physical danger, there needs to be a very careful set of parameters put in place. There need to be steps and proving points where one is able to demonstrate that they are different and that the Lord has changed them so that the marriage can be maintained. Dr. Caldwell assures us that the Bible is clear, restoration is possible and restoration does happen. He shares with us that the church he shepherds and it’s congregants have been witnesses of this in their congregation. They’ve seen enormous demonstrations of the power of God in transforming lives and restoring of marriages.
Dr. Philpot next brings up Dr. Caldwell’s high view of marriage. They discuss Dr. Caldwell’s view, and how he sees and understands what the Scriptures are teaching and how many would see these teachings as restrictive. This understanding is considered the minority view. He has spoken about it, written about it and preached on it in a recent series titled - Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage. Dr. Caldwell explains that even though this understanding is restrictive, he does believe there are biblical grounds for divorce.
For Some Marriages, There Are Certain Situations That Are Unsustainable
He sees 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 as holding out the possibility that for some marriages, there are certain situations that are just unsustainable. The Apostle Paul says there, that the wife should not leave her husband (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife. Dr. Caldwell believes that this passage of scripture envisions particular situations where you cannot say to a person that it is wise for them to remain.
More importantly, though, we need to be focused on God’s design for marriage. It’s one man and one woman joined together covenantally before God for life. Marriage is a covenant until death, the death of one or the other is the only biblical release to remarry (e.g., Romans 7:2-3). We are to seek to maintain marriages and glorify God in them, and this will involve forgiveness. Asking for and granting it, even when some very serious sins have been committed.
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